This Prop 8 shit is ridiculous.
As someone who just got married and completely took for granted the fact that not only did I face NO barriers whatsoever, but I was constantly encouraged to do so my whole life, far be it for me to be someone who's outraged. Even though I am.
(Which means you're gonna hear about it.)
It reminds me of when people would ask me, "So, how's married life?" or "How's it feel now that you're married?" and I would answer, "Married life is the same as unmarried life," or, "Feels exactly the same!"
And now I feel shitty about saying that. It's not the same and that's the point.
Marriage didn't make me love Dave more. It didn't trigger some previously buried, new-found loyalty. The dynamic of our relationship hasn't reached earth-shattering new levels of nirvana because we signed a piece of paper.
We're still us. We're just the married us. But it makes a huge difference.
I guess our marriage is a symbol -- to society -- to say, look assholes, we're serious. We committed. We made it official and now all of you can no longer dismiss our relationship as a lesser form of your own because we hadn't yet married and you had. (And yet we have the audacity to deny this right to others?)
Loving each other, living together, paying bills together, moving to a new city together, making important decisions together -- it wasn't enough to show that we were committed just as much as a married couple. It wasn't enough to allow me to make decisions on Dave's behalf should something unthinkable happen. It's just simply not enough.
For us, of course, it was always enough. Legally, it never will be. I get that.
But the fact that this country would even consider denying the legal right to marry to two people who love each other and have been sharing their lives together is disgusting.
Get over yourselves, people. Allowing gays to marry (I hate using the word "allowing" here; does anyone else think that's fucked up?) doesn't make your marriage anything "less." It doesn't taint the institution. It doesn't undermine your love. It shouldn't offend you because someone else's marriage is none of your business in the first place. It DOES mean that you'll have to get off your high horse and stop being a bigot. Uh oh, scary.
If you can't do that, maybe we should do what Melissa Etheridge suggested: If gay people can't have the full rights of American citizens, maybe they shouldn't have to pay state taxes either.
Okay, I'm getting off this soapbox now, I promise.
And holy crap, was this a heavy post for a Friday. Bet you didn't know I had it in me.
Anyway, I'm gonna go drink my face off...